Updated: Feb 28, 2020

by Barbara Manconi-Smith

You know when they say if you have to try to be cool, you will never be cool. Well, if you have to try to be happy, then you will never be happy. Maybe the problem these days is that we are just trying too hard.

We mom hard, we adult hard, we work hard and play harder, we march, we stand, we get mad, and we post hard...really hard. We are living by the mantra of Give It All You Got, we are afraid of failure, as we set higher and higher expectations for ourselves (and passing it on to our children)

The failure to meet our own expectations is not antithetical to happiness, one could actually argue that the ability to fail and still appreciate the experience is actually a fundamental building block for happiness.

Happiness is not something we obtain, or achieve, Happiness is felt. And in a world always more driven to obtain, achieve and conquer we are at loss when the very same thing we are all striving for is not there for the grab. No matter how much money we make, what school our children are going to, how many pounds we lose, happiness, like life, is not a destination.

So what do we need to do to BE happy?

Stop asking the question. Stop trying. Stop doing. Because is not in something we do or don't do that lies the secret of a blissful state.

Our children will not remember us for all that we DO for them, but for all that we ARE for them.

So BE you, BE present, BE effort less, just BE, and with time you may slowly realize that you may actually BE happy.